Remember it’s ok to feel disheartened when things you care about get creamed by Covid. You don’t have to scold your sad self just because other people have it worse. That’s a form of spiritual bypassing and it’s not helpful.
Instead, feel your discouragement and acknowledge yourself like you would a discouraged child. Then get on with your life. Here’s something that might give some context for all the feels right now.
Read MoreOf course, your thoughts create emotions and physiological responses,. so if you're fixating on all the things you can’t control, how do you think you’ll feel?
Angry. Frustrated. Hopeless. Bitter. Cheated. Sick. Tired.
And how will those emotions and manifestations help you thrive during the crisis? They won’t.
Not sure you’re allowed to thrive during the crisis? You are.
In fact, we need you to.
Read MoreI went to Home Goods after meeting Lisa and bought a blouse, some earrings a muffin tin, and some Spanx. After 60 days at home, I thought that would be deeply satisfying. It wasn’t. = NO LIFE.
Two nights ago, on a group coaching call, one of the Firegirls lamented no longer having tea parties at her house with friends from church. The other Firegirls chimed in with “Have it in your yard.” “On blankets!” “With proper teacups and daffodils!" This was a clever solution and made us feel a little British and therefore better about ourselves. = LIFE.
Read MoreYears ago I had a dream where a young woman I didn’t know was stewing over a decision she had to make. She explained the dilemma and I remember saying:
“I don’t know what you should do, but I know every decision I’ve ever made out of fear, has been the wrong one.”
So when/if the opportunity arrives to ramp up and rejoin the rat race, remember you have a choice.
Love or Fear.
Read MoreOf course, good vibes are a great idea because bad vibes ARE contagious, (think complaining, selfishness, victimhood) but I think the Law of Attraction accidentally taught us that someone else’s pain is a contagious bad vibe, and we need to quarantine it before it gets on us too.
Oh crap, she's sad, I don’t want to get sad, lemme help her shut that down: “Well, at least you have your health.”
Read MoreBefore I hit midlife, I regarded those feelings like pond scum floating on the surface of my lovely, blue lake. Pouring sugar on them sank them back down to the bottom, where they belong.
A good storm though - like a global pandemic - stirs them right back up doesn't it?
In those moments when I’m crazy, ravenous for pie, cookies, ice cream, and chocolate, it’s not because I’m hungry.
It’s because something hurts.
Read MoreI’m showing up to my life and my business every day and choosing to do the next right thing. Our world needs positive leadership now more than ever, you and I can be on that team.
All we have to do is keep laying bricks.
Read MoreNo, I want you to fully experience every emotion you have. Scream into a pillow. Rage clean. Smash plates. Space out in consternation. Cry your eyes out. Take the rage out for a run. Hear, see and acknowledge every part of you that is furious about this. Same with you health care workers. Let the rage out. Here’s your free pass to completely lose your friggin mind.
Better? Good. Now let’s get to work.
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Grandma Tip #1 - Action is the antidote to obsession.Even if your grandmother had an iPhone during and after the Great Depression, I doubt she would have sat around staring at it, debating strangers about the future. She was too busy for that. She had mouths to feed, clothes to wash, a farm to run, a garden to tend and neighbors to check on.
She understood that she was one thread in a wide, intricate fabric, with a part to play in maintaining its integrity. You do too.
So what needs doing in your space?
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